Meet Jayme

AKA Mostly Fit Mama

Mom……At one point in my life it felt like that is the only identity I could cling to. My dreams and thoughts about what my life could and should be as I grew up, found love, and got married were replaced with the every day doldrums of kids, diapers, married life, work, very little sleep and even less self care.

I had lost who I was….

and I didn’t even know who I wanted to be. I had a good husband, wonderful children, a good job as a nurse, a roof over my head, but I was lost. Lost in a world of doing everything and being everything for everyone around me. Wasn’t I more than this? Who am I? What did I want from my life? Did I make a mistake? I’m so stuck….how do I even get somewhere?

It’s a familiar story…

One I have heard over and over from Mom’s just like me. The world is tough on everyone, but it seems like as a modern working Mom you can’t win. You want to work and have a career, but you also want to nurture your kids and raise incredible humans. You want to give them and show them the world at the same time you are scared of what the world will do to them.

You want to be a sexy, loving wife, but you also don’t want to be touched anymore and want 20 minutes to yourself. You want a strong, committed relationship but it seems like there are people who want to wreck it around every corner. You want to be healthy and fit, and teach your children good habits, but who has time to work out consistently and fast food is the only thing you seem to have time for.

I was done…

I couldn’t do it anymore. I started making bad decision after bad decision. I resented those that I loved, I focused on the faults of people and all the negative things in life. Our marriage faltered, I wasn’t being a good Mom to my 4 children. I was out of shape and unhappy with how I looked. I was going through the motions of life wondering what happened.

I’m so sick of being unhappy…

It’s so strange that with all those mental issues and the exhaustion of being busy 24/7 that fitness was the thing that started to change things. My sweet tooth and stress eating along with on again off again dieting and running just wasn’t giving me a body I was happy with. I was headed towards my mid 30’s and I don’t think I had ever really been happy with how I looked.

So I started strength training…

My husband and I joined a local gym and for the first time I started strength training. I felt so awkward at first. The moves were foreign to me. I didn’t know what I was doing. I felt so weak. I was worried it was going to make me look bulky and manly. But through all the uncertainty I decided you know what? I kinda like this. It made me sore, and hungry, and tired, but when I left the gym after getting an extra rep or adding 5 pounds to a lift it felt so good. I was going somewhere, I was building something.

I wasn’t stuck anymore

I started and Instagram account to follow and share my fitness journey and met some really neat and inspiring people. I learned new moves, and saw incredible examples of motherhood and fitness and life being lived to its fullest. I was inspired.

Pretty soon, that hour or two late night sweat session became a staple to my life. It changed my outlook, little by little, day by day, on so many things. Some times the conversations my husband and I had while we were dripping in sweat between sets were tough. Sometimes, lifting weights after I got home and was so exhausted was the last thing I wanted to do. Sometimes we laughed and had the best time. No matter what, we kept showing up.

It isn’t perfect…

I’m not perfect. Sometimes I miss workouts, sometimes I miss weeks. Sometimes I get sick, sometimes I eat way too many swiss cake rolls. Sometimes my form stinks. But the steady grind towards fitness goals has helped give me a new outlook on life. If I, after 4 kids and years of being unhappy with my body can get abs, what else can I do?

Can we have a better marriage and love life? Heck yeah we can.

Can I find time to have a career, be a good Mom? You bet.

Can I teach my kids how to eat healthy and balanced and still enjoy Little Debbie Christmas Trees? Why not?

Can I do things for ME, while still being so important to those I love? Yep

Can I travel and experience new things regularly even though time and money are tight? Oh heck yeah.

I’m moving forward again…

What I’m figuring out as I plow messily through my 30’s is that you can make and mold your life into whatever you want it to be if you are willing to work for it. Life changes every single day, and it is hard, but its also filled with incredible people and experiences. Its about finding the people and moments that light your soul on fire. Its about balance, and love. Its about working on yourself and who you want to be. Its about discipline, and integrity. Its about having goals and making decisions day after day that get you just a little closer to those goals.

I think a lot about the people I allow in my life, who I want to be as a Mom, who I want to be as a Wife, and who I want to be as just me……Jayme. All of them are important. I value experiences over things. I freaking LOVE Chiefs Football. I love watching my kids compete in sports and find things they love. I enjoy being fit and feeling strong and working out. I’m learning to eat healthier all the time. Running is wonderful for my mental health. Leggings are probably my favorite clothing article. Traveling and having new experiences is what makes me feel most alive. I love sea turtles. My family has always been there for me, and I will always be there for them. I am worthy of all of it, and slowly but surely I intend to work towards having a life that I can look back on one day and say was well lived.

And I want to share what I learn. I want other Mom’s to see that getting just a tiny bit better every day can make a huge difference in your life. I thought if I could help one person maybe get up tomorrow and feel better about themselves and their life, then that was a worthy goal. Maybe it will be 5 people who find my little corner of the internet. Maybe it will be 5000, maybe it will be nobody, but there aren’t enough strong women in the world shouting from the rooftops that Mama….you are amazing! You can do all those hard things if you just keep going. Your life is exactly what you make of it so tell a story worth reading.

All I know is that these pages, my Instagram, my story that I tell will be authentic. It will be messy imperfect me working hard a little every day to live my life. Please come join in and follow along! Maybe we can learn something from one another, maybe we can be friends, maybe we can inspire each other to live life to the fullest.

Jayme